{"id":310,"date":"2014-11-17T14:59:26","date_gmt":"2014-11-17T16:59:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lifeinduality.com\/?p=310"},"modified":"2019-11-04T20:49:34","modified_gmt":"2019-11-04T22:49:34","slug":"discovering-my-sexuality-part1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lifeinduality.com\/?p=310","title":{"rendered":"Discovering My Sexuality (Part1): My Orgasm Matters Too!"},"content":{"rendered":"

I was talking to a good friend of mine recently. We were discussing her trying to juggle being a mother of two small children, a full time career and still be the vixen she needs to be for her man. She was telling me that she could go months without sex and not even notice. Then she said something that resonated heavily with me\u2026<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t really feel like the sex is for me. Now that I think about it\u2026 it never really has been about me. I always did it because I thought that\u2019s what was next\u201d<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve run into a lot of women who feel this way and don\u2019t even know it. Unfortunately MOST women do not have a healthy sexual threshold or mindset. I think this goes back to childhood.\"no<\/a><\/p>\n

For most of us we were raised to be \u201cGood Girls.\u201d And Good Girls do NOT talk to boys, like boys, kiss boys and under NO CIRCUMSTANCES are you to have sex with a boy. I can literally remember the \u201csex talk\u201d with my mother consisting of something along the lines of \u201cDon\u2019t be giving your flower away to these boys, that\u2019s all they want. Billy gonna have sex with you, then Susie and Becky and your little feelings will be hurt) and that was it! Never any mention of it being something that could be mutually beneficial or something that was meant for me to enjoy at the proper maturity level.<\/p>\n

So from the beginning for most girls\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 sex=bad<\/strong><\/p>\n

Now you have the \u2018First Time.\u201d Most women\u2019s first time having sex has nothing to do with their own raging hormones. Usually the girl\u2019s heart is raging for some hormonal boy. He wants sex, she wants him to like her\u2026 so she complies. (NO NO NO I\u2019m not saying girls are not willing participants in the losing of their virginity. I\u2019m saying the motivation is different)<\/p>\n

There is nothing magical about the first time\u2026 its awkward, uncomfortable, sometimes painful and usually NEVER sexy. The boy gets his first nut from sex and the girl gets to figure out what just happened.<\/p>\n

Depending on the age a woman loses her virginity she then spends the next few years dealing with young boys who couldn\u2019t care less about her sexual pleasure. So now our girl is leaving adolescence trying to find her way towards womanhood still not finding her sexual voice because no one ever told her that she had one. From the beginning of time she equated having sex with \u201cthat\u2019s just what you do because boys\/men like it\u201d<\/p>\n

We can agree that the basic simple purpose of sex is either procreation or orgasm right? Now, more than 75% of women report rarely or NEVER having orgasm during sex and 62% of women in America report actively taking Birth Control. So if the Women aren\u2019t trying to have children\u2026 and also aren\u2019t receiving orgasm from sex\u2026 it begs the question. Why are some women even still having sex?<\/p>\n

30% of us are getting it right, so you have to ask<\/p>\n

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Ladies\u2026. Have you discovered your sexuality?<\/p>\n

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