{"id":539,"date":"2015-01-15T17:16:06","date_gmt":"2015-01-15T19:16:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lifeinduality.com\/?p=539"},"modified":"2019-03-12T01:48:48","modified_gmt":"2019-03-12T03:48:48","slug":"love-really-enough-lifeinduality","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lifeinduality.com\/?p=539","title":{"rendered":"Is Love REALLY enough? #LifeInDuality"},"content":{"rendered":"

It seems no matter how far we get, I find myself asking the same question\u2026. Is love REALLY enough?\"Is<\/a><\/p>\n

I often find myself staring at my social media timeline in state of wonder and amazement when the topics of love, sex, dating and marriage come up. I\u2019ve come to a few conclusions from this observation..<\/p>\n

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  1. People STILL overall have a belief in this Fairy Tale idea of love<\/li>\n
  2. People care more about the idea of marriage than the actual principles of it<\/li>\n
  3. There seems to be this illusion that getting married means you won at the game of life<\/li>\n
  4. People want love but don\u2019t actually trust it<\/li>\n
  5. Folks don\u2019t think about how long FOREVER is<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    So one day one of my Followers ask me something like:<\/p>\n

    \u201cDo you think people can be happily married without being madly in love with each other?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

    And I thought to myself\u2026.<\/p>\n

    Absolutely!<\/em> besides<\/p>\n

    \u201c Love is a HORRIBLE reason to get married\u2026\u2026 If that\u2019s your only one\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Until the 19th<\/sup> century \u201cRomantic Love\u201d was nearly unheard of for the basis of Marriage. So for CENTURIES people have been choosing life mates with something more in mind than love. Marriage was about creating the strongest unit, furthering family ties, building wealth, putting plans in to motion to affect generations to come. Marriage wasn\u2019t a decision that was made lightly. It seems our generation has lost sight of that. All we can seem to think of is the soft velvet side of marriage. Wanting to find someone to love us enough to be okay with our own bullshit, really. It\u2019s like we use love as a crutch\u2026 but that\u2019s another post for another day. It\u2019s like we completely negate the PARTNERSHIP aspect of marriage.<\/p>\n

    Will this person make a good life mate? Parent? Are they financially sound? Are they spiritually whole? Are they emotionally stable? Do we enjoy spending time together? No seriously\u2026 I can\u2019t tell you how many times I\u2019ve heard people say they can\u2019t be around their significant other every day or for long periods of time\u2026. Well FOREVER is a loooooooooooooooong ass time. Will we be able to create a better life for our children? Can I trust their decision making skills? Do they know how to maintain a household? How well does my partner handle themselves in crisis? How well do the two of you work as a partnership? Do your personalities complement one another or clash?<\/p>\n

    Deciding to spend an entire lifetime with someone based solely on the fact that you love one another, in MY OPINION is simply unsound. Especially when we\u2019ve all loved someone that was toxic as ALL HELL for us. We allow our hearts to cloud the judgment of our minds. Because YES, love is wonderful and amazing and necessary but that\u2019s something that can and will always develop over time. You spend enough time with a person; going through ups and downs, laughter, tears, anger, joy, life, death \u2026 love WILL develop. That\u2019s really the basis of how we foster and maintain our friendships. But you can\u2019t LOVE someone into being compatible for you. You can\u2019t LOVE them into being a good partner. There is no love strong enough to change the innate essence of man or make him whole. But I believe life can teach you to love and time can create the space for it to grow. So do I think two people can come together who make great partners but aren\u2019t necessarily madly in love and have a wonderful life?<\/p>\n

    Absolutely.<\/p>\n

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