Most often an old girlfriend, friend from the past or business associate. She understands him and listens to him. She’s the one he calls when he doesn’t know what to do with your fussing ass. Every few months, even once a year… they meet up and have hot sweaty sex then they go back to their respective lives. No Strings Attached.
We all have that Homie-Lover-Friend. The person that we’re attracted to but just know an actual relationship wouldn’t work. This is probably your man’s high school sweetheart , Ex Co-Worker (sometimes even a current co-worker). They are actual friends. He cares about what’s going on in her life, knows her family and they probably have mutual friends. They can have complete conversations without mentioning sex once. Most times this HLF has a man of her own as well. When she needs advice on dealing with her man… she’s calling yours. They know more about each others relationships than their significant others that they are in the relationship with. They share a certain comfort level that unfortunately your man will probably never have with you. And every once in a while they meet up for a night of great sex. She knows how to please your man in ways that you refuse to try. They can laugh at each other in the middle of sex and talk shit about out doing the other. For them it’s just sex. A release of pinned up frustrations, a chance to try something new. Afterwards they lay up, usually no cuddling. They can just BE around each other and that’s the main allure about it all . They will spend the night together… wake up in the morning …. and go there separate ways. Your man will returned to you freed of some of the burden he’s been carrying. Relaxed, rejuvenated and ready to continue working through his relationship with you! Send the Homie-Lover-Friend a thank you Card. She just probably extended your relationship a good year!